Online dating saying no thanks
The best way to avoid this sort of thing is to kill people with kindness, even if they don’t deserve it.
Say that you’re in the midst of a phone call with a prospect (after some e-mail exchanges), and you realize that he or she just isn’t a match.
Remember that nothing is ever completely erased on the Internet, so made-up abuse is pretty easy to expose.
And if you report inappropriately, the site will monitor your mail.
On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.
Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.
Spotting these people is tough because they seem so genuine and enthusiastic. They express assumptions about the depth of your relationship with them long before it’s appropriate.
When your goal is to make a clean break from the person who won’t let go (or any prospect, for that matter), never argue or defend yourself.
However, if you’re a drama king or queen, don’t practice your art of “the sky is falling.” If you fabricate e-mails and try to damage someone’s reputation, you’ll run foul of several civil and criminal laws — maybe even antiterrorism federal law.You have to accept the bad guy or girl role unless you want to create an even angrier person out of your former prospect.